Counseling & Life Coaching
The River Source offers a unique combination of Counseling (1 on 1 & group face to face therapy) and Life Caoching. Each is very different and yet both are essential to the treatment process and provide the best opportunity for long term sobriety. At The River Source we are proud of the knowledgeable, educated, and passionate counselors that we have on staff. Most of the counselors are in recovery and have personal experiences with addictions and the recovery process.
Counseling (1 on 1 & group therapy) is a helping process that takes place in an atmosphere of acceptance, respect, and trust. Counselors work with patients / clients (1 on 1 and in group sessions) confidentially to help them understand themselves, their behaviors, feelings, and relationships. The purpose of counseling is to help our clients / patients identify their personal strengths and develop ways to live life more fully.
We help our patients / clients with:
Our counselors assist people with addictions as well as personal, family, educational, mental health, and career problems. Our counselors specialize in chemical dependency, including adults who have problems with alcohol, drugs, depression, and eating disorders. They counsel individuals who are addicted by helping them to identify behaviors and problems related to their addiction. Counseling is done on an individual basis with (two) 1 on 1 sessions per week. We also provide small men’s and women’s group sessions, relaxation groups, eating disorder / nutrition groups, and other small groups, all conducted in a safe and comfortable setting. In addition, our counselors will often work with family members who are affected by the addictions of their loved ones. If you are out of state, we provide the option of phone sessions with families and the client. Our counselors also conduct programs aimed at preventing addictions.
The River Source believes that Life Coaching is critical and brings enlightenment to life, especially in a Chemical Dependency Treatment Center where many of the clients need a new and better direction in life. With the best will in the world, people still struggle to make their lives become what they truly want. The one missing, essential ingredient in the process is - interaction with you - by a real coach. Without that, even if we're desperate to see a way through, we generally can't, even if it's staring us right in the face. It really is completely true that Life Coaching can empower you to become your best! Why is it true?
We have done so much coaching now that we know precisely why it's true:
How does it work, and why would you want it?
Life coaching is still relatively new and many people don't know what it's all about. This page is designed to be a "beginner's guide". You might also want to look at the life coaching FAQ below. Life Coaching is a CBT - a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - talking therapy, aimed at increasing human happiness. Through conversation, clients are helped to understand why they find themselves in their current situation and then to find strategies, motivations and focus to design and move towards new, better situations. Different life coaches work in different ways, but pure life coaching is not mystical. It's down-to-earth. It's primarily cognitive - in that it's main tool is the client's own thinking mind. But it is also informed by the un-conscious and emotional components of the human psyche. It is a "cognitive behavioral therapy" (CBT). Life coaching differs from counseling in that it focuses on the present and what lies ahead. It may be necessary to look back to find the root causes of some unhelpful thinking patterns, and have to untie some knots, but ultimately we come back to the "where are we now?" and the "where do we want to go?".
You! It's for anyone who wants to improve some aspect of their life. You might want a new job or career, or promotion in the one you have. You might want to write your novel, or find your perfect partner, or find new self confidence, or get rid of a destructive habit. You might want to get more balance between your working or private lives. Maybe you want to start your own business, or find the focus necessary for passing important exams. You might just be unhappy without knowing why. Whatever you want to change, coaching can probably help, with just a couple of notable exceptions. If you have a mental illness or a hard drug problem, then coaching is probably not the best option for you - you're more likely to get the help you need from a therapist specifically qualified in those specialties.
Most Life Coaching is done by phone (or internet telephony) in sessions lasting 30 minutes to an hour. Usually sessions happen weekly, but they can run less frequently. Clients may have just one session, or they may work with their life coach for many months. Every case is unique, but as a rule of thumb, major change happens between sessions 4 and 8. What is paid varies widely - my menu of services and prices is here. So what happens in the session? Well, again, every case is unique.
Exactly what we do depends on the client, the issue in focus, and where we are in the process, but here are some things which are almost always true:
1. How will I know if coaching is for me? If you are struggling with any part of your life, want to assess your current situation or just want to improve your life, then life coaching is for you! We'll actually use the coaching process to identify an area you may want to work on, and to look at the steps we would take should we decide to work together. You'll get a chance to see River Source’s way of treatment and how Life Coaching will enhance your life.
2. Why can't I get the same support from friends? Good question! Here are some answers for you: a) Your coach is professionally trained to coach you. She or he has specific skills in listening, questioning techniques, motivation, communication and more. All of these will be focused on freeing you to become what you want to be. Your friends are unlikely to be qualified in these ways. b) Our coaches are trained and experienced in the management of people and projects, so they know a lot about the real world and how to motivate and direct people. All of this expertise is available to you during our coaching sessions. c) Our coaches are paid by you to work for you over the weeks and months of the coaching relationship. There are no hidden agendas; they are not going to lose patience, become bored or self-interested. Your friends may be less reliable and less devoted. d) Family and friends may be reluctant to tell you straight, because they fear that the truth will lose their relationship with you. They're more likely to tell you what you want to hear. Your Life Coach will want to maintain a first class relationship with you too, but they are paid to help you, and will tell it like it is when they need to. e) Some of those around you may be part of the reason you want to change. We all fear change - in ourselves - but also in others. How often do you notice friends offering you fatty foods when you're on a diet? Without even realizing it, those around us can undermine our determination to make positive changes in our lives. f) Our friends and family often come from the same background and areas as us. They may have accepted their lot in life, and may see change as impossible. They may even see ambitions as arrogant and unreasonable. Their negativity and skepticism about your potential for personal growth - or the way the world is - may be a big problem which your coach can help you with. g) There may be some things you can't say to family and friends, because they're very private - or because your family and friends are part of what you want to change. Your Life Coach is professional and detached, and your work with him is confidential. You can be completely honest.
3. Why can't I just read a good Coaching Book? You can, and you should! But a book can never do what a coach can do. A coach is there when the untidy business of theory meeting practice happens. A coach will get to know you and understand why you fail and how you can succeed. They will develop a relationship with you from which you can draw confidence, energy, and motivation. The regular appointments will motivate you to "do your homework" - this is where the real life-changing happens. It doesn't happen between the pages of a book - you have to go out into the world and tinker with it!
4. How does Life Coaching differ from counseling or Therapy? Life Coaching is not about deep self-analysis or regressing to childhood events. It is forward-looking - focused in the present and the future. It is practical and down-to-earth, looking at concrete ways to make real progress in the world in the areas listed above.
5. Are there any problems which Life Coaching is not appropriate for? Yes. Life Coaching is not appropriate for the following: serious medical conditions, drug addiction, or mental illness. That is why we also offer counseling as part of the River Source Treatment program. Your coach will not necessarily be an expert in finance, business management, law, or relationship counseling. A coach can help you in these areas. Not by giving professional advice in them, but by helping you to find the professional help you need.
6. How Much Does it Cost? If you are in-patient at the River Source, the Life Coaching is included in your fees and there is no extra cost. Please contact us at 1-888-697-7332 for details.
7. If you have another question not answered here just contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org or 1-888-687-7332. No obligations. No charge.
8. Which areas do you serve? Most of my coaching is done as part of the in-patient / residential treatment program at The River Source. Some can be done by phone and skype etc. If phone costs are an issue, we can use Internet Phones - I have a raft of alternatives available. If you prefer personal coaching face-to-face then meeting may be possible. If you want me to travel to you, then you will need to live within 50 miles, and there will be additional charges for the time and travel costs. Contact us for a price for your location. Alternatively, you may prefer to travel to us; we coach at our center, coaching offices and in quiet public areas.
9. How many sessions will I need? It depends on each individual. We are all different and have various life experiences. We can't guarantee how long it will take in your particular case, but from extensive experience, the average is between 4 and 8 sessions. By that time, we have usually explored the problem space, defined clear, believable, exciting new goals, designed robust strategies to reach those goals, and started out down the path. We will have explored the "brain space" of the client too - finding their fears, hiddden beliefs and the other things which trap people into small, sad lives for poor reasons. After that, they can push forward on their own. Some folks stay with us during this period, but drop the frequency - this way they maintain focus and energy and access to problem-solving - but at a lower cost.
10. Do you coach outside the River Source? We can do aftercare (treatment) phone coaching for people all over the world. Skype calls over the Internet are free and effective. So wherever you live, if you want to work with The River Source, we are only a quick call away from you.
If you or a loved one is looking for treatment for any type of substance abuse, please call NOW: 1-888-687-7332 or 480-827-0322 (your call is confidential).