Who would have thought that you would actually be excited to send your loved one to treatment? What many people don’t realize is that getting a person into treatment is an exhausting process in itself. You finally have some peace that your loved one has acknowledged their problem, agreed to treatment and walked through the doors to a better life. You realize that you have a long road ahead of you, but progress has to start somewhere. And it has.
As your loved one goes through their time in treatment, there are some dos and don’ts that you should be aware of. Let’s take a look at what they are.
DON’T take your loved one out of treatment.
No matter how much your loved one threatens, blackmails or throws an epic tantrum, do NOT take them out of treatment. You may be feeling guilty, but don’t let your loved one manipulate you. As they get sober and start moving through their days, they will come to see that a better life can be theirs. If you have concerns, talk to a counselor at the program.
DO hold firm with love.
It’s up to you to hold firm. You must remember that your loved one is not thinking clearly right now. If you let them take advantage of you, then who is going to be the adult in the relationship? Be supportive of your loved one – not the addiction.
DON’T regard addiction as a family disgrace.
Addiction is a disease. As much as it may seem like your loved one chose this path, they did not. No one chooses to be addicted. They may have made some bad decisions in choosing to experiment with drugs or alcohol, but addiction can grab a hold of anyone. Refrain from thinking that your loved one is a disgrace or morally flawed.
DO get involved with their treatment.
One of the contributing factors to a successful recovery is family support and participation. If there is family therapy offered at the treatment center, take part in it. If your loved one agrees to have you as a contact person, stay on top of the progress they are making. Prepare to follow in their continuing care and create a sober, supportive environment.
DO give treatment time to work.
Treatment may not be successful on the first try. You must realize that if relapse does occur, it’s not a failure on your part or your loved one’s part. Even if your loved one doesn’t relapse, it may be some time before they start returning to the person you remember. Their brain and body have a lot of healing to go through. Give it time.
If you are ready to start your loved one on the journey to sobriety, call The River Source right away. We can make same-day transportation arrangements and get your loved one the help they need.