ARE YOU TOUGH ENOUGH TO BE MY PARENT?
Are you tough enough…
I am a son or daughter who needs guidance. I don’t need a friend. Friends can be manipulated and it makes me feel unsafe.
I don’t need you to caretake me, as I get older it keeps me from growing up and enables me to not be responsible.
I don’t need you to rescue me when I do something wrong. How else will I learn the difference between right and wrong? When this happens, you give me permission to do the same behaviors over again.
I don’t need you to yell at me because when you yell at me I won’t be listening. If I do something wrong teach me what I did and help me to do better.
Don’t baby me. Babies always get their way and I’ll take advantage of you. And speaking of getting my way, it’s not something I need all the time. Nobody likes an adult baby. They are never satisfied with life and are easily bored. They will become emotional vampires and emotionally drain those around them. So don’t baby me! (When we baby our children we turn them into the very babies others will resent later in their lives).
If I don’t receive these lessons by the very people who should teach me them, I have to learn them from those who are not so invested in me as I get older. Judges, Jail, or worse yet, prison, Probation Officers or Parole Officers. I don’t want this.
I will get angry with you, Do it anyway! I will fight you every step of the way, Do it anyway! I will try to make you feel sorry for me, Do it anyway! I will blame, try to manipulate you and make you feel guilty, Do it anyway, Do it because you love me enough to challenge me to make the right decisions, to do the right things and to be a better person in my life. The truth is I love you and although lessons are hard I must learn them and with you at my side, I know you will gently guide me in the direction I need to go.
SO AGAIN I ASK YOU, ARE YOU TOUGH ENOUGH TO BE MY PARENT? Signed: Your Son or Daughter
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